My name is Shayla. I am a mom to three little boys and a wifey to my biggest crush. I always thought I wanted to be a mom to little girls, having 4 sisters myself, until I had little boys. I am absolutely obsessed with how fun, wild, crazy, and quite exhausting being a boy mom is!
My purpose for Me and These 3 is to be a place of relatability and resource for all things that come with having multiple children, maintaining a household, having a special needs child, and just being a MOM.
My boys are two and 5 months (twins). We are temporarily relocated for one of our twins, Ryker. He was born with multiple congenital birth defects: CDH (Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia, which is a hole in his diaphragm allowing abdominal organs into his chest, compressing his lungs and heart), TEF & EA (tracheoesophageal fistula and esophageal atresia, meaning his esophagus and his trachea were not attached at birth and his esophagus was attached to the stomach incorrectly), and a heart defect called DORV (Double Outlet Right Ventricle, meaning both his heart’s major arteries connect to the right ventricle).
In addition to that, the twins, Ryker and Luka, are among the 1% of twins called Mono Mono or Monoamniotic (they shared a sac and placenta in pregnancy.) Before I was pregnant with twins, I thought there was only two options, identical and fraternal. However, twins are identified as Mo-Di (same placenta, their own amniotic sacs, these are identical), Mo-Mo (same placenta and amniotic sac, also identical), or Di-Di (their own amniotic sacs and own placenta, usually fraternal). Because they shared a sac, they were very high risk for cord entanglement complications. Cord entanglement is unpreventable and happens 100% of the time in these twins, so I was inpatient with them from 27 weeks to their planned birth at 34 weeks to monitor the entanglement and to minimize complications.
Going through this last year has taught me how great it is to be able to relate to moms who’ve been there. That’s what I hope to be to you. So whether you have a child with special needs, a colicky baby at home, a naughty two year old, or juggling multiples; lean on me and I will lean on you back. There is no rule book and certainly no “how to” and I believe we are never meant to do this alone. So, welcome to my village.